Do you ever feel overwhelmed with all the responsibilities life has thrown your way? Work, kids, spouse, managing your home! I am convinced that moms are busier now than ever before as they continue to take on the lion’s share of work (at home) while also working a full time job. And let’s not forget that our children are now scheduled more than an airline on Thanksgiving weekend. Go, go, go, more, more, more. That seems to be the motto our society is embracing.
So while everyone is running at full speed, moms are still managing it all. Making sure everyone is fed, has clean clothes, goes to the doctor and dentist, manages sports, clubs, and social schedules, plans vacations, and depending on where you are in this season of life, taking care of elderly parents too. Exhausted much? So this begs the question: What about you? You know, the woman who holds it all together and tries to be the best Pinterest Mom she can be. Who is taking care of her? If you are like most women, the answer is nobody. Not even you. Ladies, self care is critical to your success. It’s critical to your health. And yet it’s the first thing to go when moms get overwhelmed. One way to establish self care (which, by the way, is way more than the pedicure you get once or twice a year), is to establish balance in your life.
That’s why I’m here to share with you 3 tips that will help you create more balance in your life so you can make sure you have the energy to tackle it all, with your sanity in tact at the end of the day.
Develop a morning routine
I am not talking about the routine where you are chasing the dog around trying to get her to go out before you have to leave the house ,while you beg your kids to just sit down and eat their breakfast. I am talking about a routine that allows you to be at your very best because you are priming yourself for the day. There are many things you CAN do (see list below) but pick 2 or 3 and work yourself into the rest. It’s not about doing it all at once, it’s about just getting started.
- Write in your journal
- Make a gratitude list
- Make a list of actions you will take today to get you closer to achieving a goal you’ve set
- Make your bed
- Drink 8-16 ounces of water before you get out of bed
Create a Not-To-Do List
We all have a to-do list and it usually is longer than our arm. Have you ever looked at your list to determine how many of those things actually move the needle towards you achieving your goals? Here’s an exercise you can do to help free up time for yourself and your family.
- First, list the actions you spend time on. List it all! (work, grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, yard work, etc.)
- Now, go through the list and ask yourself what things do you spend time on that don’t serve growth, greater income, empowerment, your higher power, your family or a bigger future. Circle those items. Now you have a list of items that do not serve you.
- Next, assign one of the following to each of these items. Automate, Delegate or Eliminate. For example, paying your bills. The act of paying bills does not, on its own, aid in your growth. However, the bills must get paid. This is something that can be automated through your bank. So spend a few hours on a Saturday setting up automatic bill paying and free up that time for other activities.
Ask for help.
There, I said it. Ladies, asking for help does not make you weak. In fact, it shows that you are a woman who understands the importance of being supported. That you are serious about taking care of yourself because you are not willing to bear the brunt of all the work on your own. So, ask for help. Enlist your spouse, significant other, children, friends and other family members,
co-workers, neighbors, or whomever you can tag in to this crazy thing called life. Asking for help and then graciously accepting it shows a level of self-love and self-respect that not only helps you, but also teaches your children a valuable lesson.
Denise LaRue is a life coach from Southeastern Pennsylvania, who teaches women how to turn their purpose into their paycheck. A single mom of two, Denise traded in her corporate golden handcuffs in 2018 for a life of freedom and the joy of following her purpose. She shows women how to love and respect themselves enough to design and chase the life of their
dreams. Denise LaRue 484.947.9278